Is There More To It Than Meets The Eye In Priyanka’s Un-Finished Memoir?

 Priyanka, though an ‘outsider’ in Bollywood- she is one of the lucky few with some privilege – she has her ‘Miss World’ title to bank on and parents to fall back on.

There are two conflicting opinions on Priyanka Chopra- former Miss World and Actor adding the title “Jonas” to her name- and thus becoming Priyanka Chopra Jonas – after her big fat Indian wedding. 

One –  it is her choice; Two – as one of the role model for/of women, why did she do that?  Why should she take/ add her husband’s title to her name?

Priyanka Chopra is a given name – yeah, she did not choose it (did she?).  But to add Jonas is her choice – a decision made by her (didn’t she?).

I happen to be among the first group. My first re-action on the question – what do you say about Priyanka adding the ‘Jonas’ title, was – “it’s her choice”. She is an adult with her own mind, educated, well exposed to the outside world, opinionated, a former beauty queen and one of the most popular face in the world.

Priyanka is a woman of privilege and power

My observation is that, in Priyanka’s case, unlike majority of, say for instance Indian women, who do not have a ‘choice” – who were assumed or automatically given their husband’s title after marriage (yes, without asking them!) – Priyanka’s case is not so.

Classic case – you go to the hospital – they ask your name – obviously your marital status – the doctor without a blink writes your name (patient’s name) with the husband’s title, right? Or you go to any institutions or any register counter – a woman’s name and title (surname or second name) always goes with the husband’s – unless you tell them or give in writing that “this is my name”- saying that you did not take/ add his title.

Chopra – I believe-  is someone who knows what she is doing- surely she is not – subtlety or unknowingly – forced or coerced to add “Jonas” in her title.

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An intelligent woman who understands the reality of her profession

Chopra is one of my favorite actor. Especially after watching her in Fashion (a movie that I saw more than once). Since then somehow I have been following her movies, and of late her talks, discussion and chat shows. I have found her very talented and versatile. Chopra is smart and intelligent. She is ambitious and doesn’t mind saying that. I find her courageous and outspoken – but knows where to draw the line.

On asked if she is irritated by the paparazzi in one of her interviews she said “aren’t we in this business to be photograph?” That was a good one. She is realistic.

All the more that her philanthropy and talk of women empowerment, girl child, had really touched million hearts and she is worth listening.

Priyanka’s memoir Unfinished

Her memoir- Unfinished is just as entertaining as her. A story of her evolution from a ‘middle class’ (a term she often used) to a global phenomenon. The memoir is quite revealing – in that she tells about her fears- her inhibitions- of making peace with her inner self.

In short Priyanka is a quick learner and how she moves on in her life is remarkable.

Though she did not write much about the ‘inside’ of Bollywood – or the Hindi film industry as she puts it, her recollection of her beginner days were creepy and un-friendly. She was advised to get a boob job, fix her jaw, and a little more cushioning on the butt. Of course, Priyanka did not follow the unsolicited advice, obviously ! Priyanka – a new comer –step out of a project that requires her to “show her chaddiyan” in a song sequence. Priyanka mentioned that on being removed from a role just because an actor wants his girlfriend to be cast is such a humiliating experience. And one can imagine what Priyanka or other crew would feel, waiting for the male lead –who comes in at his own sweet time for shooting. This are few of the things she mentions; of course there would be many incidents and events of experience. But these are enough as evidence of what women actors go through in the film industry in India. Moreover, her mention of the ‘un-equal wage’ in the film industry is worth a note.

All this, comparatively are just a tip of the ice berg, as many have also stated.

Priyanka, though an ‘outsider’ in Bollywood- she is one of the lucky few. She has her ‘Miss World’ title to bank on and parents to fall back on. It is a known fact that many female actors could not survive in the industry.

Priyanka is a survivor.

Reading her memoir, it can be said that Priyanka strongly holds on to her ‘Indian-ness’.  She stated that she is a product of “tradition and modern India”. She seems to jealously guard this.

But is there more to it than meets the eye from the book?

It is said that celebrity memoirs are not the ‘tell-all’ story. Indeed, Priyanka’s story is not ‘finished’. I believe there is still some unfished story about the ‘Chopra-Jonas’ product. How or why she decided to take the title. Maybe a sequence of the memoir – part 2? I believe fans are eager to know.


JULY 10, 2021
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Binodini’s Book “The Princess And The Political Agent” Is Intriguing, As She Writes From The Heart

 The story of Manipur’s Princess Sanatombi and the colonial Agent Maxwell written by Maharaj Kumari Binodini Devi is a gripping account of love, hate, family, power, and politics.

These were two important personalities during the crucial period in the colonial history of Manipur.

Binodini’s book “The Princess and the Political Agent’ is an English translation from the Manipuri “Bor Saheb Ongbi Sanatombi. The book covers the period from 1819 in the erstwhile kingdom of Manipur till Sanatombi died in 1906. The period covers the reign of the Meitei Maharajas, and the onset of colonial rule. It saw war, devastation, feuds, and fall of sovereign kings, one after another.

It is a significant period of transition and change for/in Manipur. Given the backdrop of the story, the account of the life of Sanatombi is intriguing. Not only is the book engaging, a good read, or a sensational romance between two people divided by enemy lines but is also intertwined in the socio-political setting of the time. Binodini takes you to the other side of royalty and describes the churnings behind the scenes in the Meitei kingdom. The book offers you a peep into the lives of the royal women. The author details their roles, responsibilities, and most of all their influence, even powerlessness in domestic and public spaces.

The original “Bor Saheb Ongbi Sanatombi was published in 1976 and won the Sahitya Akademi Award (1979). It took Binodini more than 10 years to complete the story. She mentioned in the foreword that she wanted to write the book since 1965. It could not be written for “lack of courage to take up the story of a large life”. She wrote, “I tried twice, but failed”.

Binodini writes with a pang of guilt as she seeks forgiveness from Sanatombi in the opening dedication of the book. A princess herself and from the same royal bloodline, Binodini’s subject and central character Sanatombi was her paternal aunt. Perhaps, Binodini felt that her royal aunt would not have approved of her writing this story.

Sanatombi’s life was a hush-hush affair, but an already open book at the time. Though the author says the book is a work of fiction, it is a history of real people. The life of Sanatombi, the princess who fell in love and became the wife of the colonial agent, the enemy of her people.

The English translator, Somi Roy mentioned in his note that back in 1976 when the book was first published it took Manipur by storm. People were not ready to accept that their beloved princess surrendered herself to the colonial Saheb – the enemy. All the more, Sanatombi was already a married woman by the time her life became entangled with her lover, who himself, as per the author’s epilogue, was also a married man. The conservative and culturally sensitive Meitei society was not able to come to terms with the events that were unfolding.

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People loved her, people hated her. The infamous love story was popularly known as “The Maxwell-Sanatombi Scandal”. Her Highness Sanatombi became an outcast, ostracized by her own royal family. Her mother lamented, “All is lost, your mother is lost, I am lost, my sovereign husband, I am lost”. 

She was eventually being turned into an imaginary character in public memory. Binodini writes that her aunt was remembered as a “legend” in public memory. She wrote, Most of us take Sanatombi, the native wife of the big saheb as a legend. I heard snippets of stories about her when I was little. I had also heard children sing, Sanatombi you are lost to us… I had thought it was long ago, but it turned out to be not that far back”.

Binodini writes from her heart. What is obvious is her brutal honesty and bravery in telling what she believes is the truth, however unpalatable. She does not mince words. She tells stories as it is, or as it were. Binodini appears to be a keenly observant. Her works depict a deep understanding of her environment and society.

Lovingly called “emashi”  (a title for Manipur’s royal mothers) most of Binodini’s central characters in her stories are weaved around women. From her works, it appears her thoughts and imagination are well beyond what the society could comprehend in her times and to some extent even today. Her work Imagee Ningthem in 1981 an internationally acclaimed film, is well beyond the time to grasp the central theme and characters she portrays.

Binodini is not a feminist per se. The Princess and The Political Agent is not out-rightly feminist. Nevertheless, somewhere between the lines, from the strong women characters she portrays, there is a subtle connection to the “personal is political” but overall it cannot loosely be termed a feminist work or feminism. A strong women characters or women-centric stories does not necessarily make a writer a feminist. Moreover, Binodini covers a variety of subjects in her work of literature. She does not restrict herself to a single line of women or female protagonists or women-centric stories.


AUGUST 17, 2020
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Why Did North East Women Returning Due To COVID-19 Face Stigma & Maligning?

 As people from the NE returned home from the metro cities, they faced a lot of stigma. From moral policing to memes, the women suffered it all.

As thousands of migrant workers return home due to COVID-19 lockdown in India, there are scores of heart-rending stories and pictures. A large number of northeast people, too, jumped onto the special trains arranged for their return. And as these young men and women took the not-so-enjoyable journey to reach their homes, there is another facet of the pandemic tragedy.

Stories of online trolls, sexist jokes, memes, and moral policing abound. And what makes the situation worse is the people staying at home with their smartphones. People on their smart phones is merely a breeding ground for the circulation of fake news, misinformation and maligning women.

For instance, there is a young woman whose picture went viral as she boarded the ‘special’ train from Chennai to Dimapur in May. In the picture that went viral, she is seen standing in queue on a railways platform holding a pressure cooker.

Why was her survival entertainment for others?

By the time she reached Nagaland, her state, and managed to settle down at a quarantine centre, she was shocked to learn she was all over social media. And that she was also being called ‘The Pressure Cooker Lady.’

The picture was also accompanied by captions like, ‘Returnee from Chennai. The pressure cooker must be really expensive,’ or, ‘I have never seen someone so well prepared for quarantine.’

A Nagaland paper quoted the young woman saying she came across her picture on Facebook. She had appealed to administrators of the Facebook groups to remove her photographs.

But this is her story – before boarding the train, the young woman and her friends decided to prepare food for their journey. Given the situation, they knew there would hardly be any meal on the way back, and as Nagas, they needed ‘Chawal-Sabjee.’

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So, they came up with the idea to take their cooked food along with the pot itself. According to her, “It was survival. And only those who have been through the ordeal will understand our plight.”

She reasoned that she couldn’t just ‘throw away the pressure cooker after eating.’ And she did not bother or think about anything but carried the pressure cooker in her hand. Reportedly, the special train passengers were only given water, bread and butter.

Where’s the line between their suffering and your content?

In another case, a video of a young woman in Mizoram, yelling her lungs out also went viral on social media. The video shows the woman who returned from Mumbai, unhappy about certain things. These probably were the arrangements for the returnees or the treatment meted out to her.

With a loudspeaker in the background, she can be heard requesting someone on the other end to give her ‘one minute.’ Then she probably asks the person recording the video, ‘Why would you cover a photo like that?’ And the person merely responds with either a yes or a no.

She is seen continuing to ask the person, “Why did you do like that, we came from Mumbai. I am not scared of anyone, note that. We know how to keep ourselves safe, protect ourselves.” The man trying to quieten her, only enrages her further.

She tells him that she is educated and does not need to be treated like that. And she also asserts, ‘Do not try to control me.’ She asked ‘Where is red zone, tell me?’ And asks him ‘So what?’

The man on the other end whom the question was directed at only managed to say he is not responsible. And the women says, “I know everything. As Pressmen, why don’t you understand things? We are not simpletons, we are educated from Mumbai, do you know that? Do you know what we went through on our journey? If you are a press person, you should be giving positive stories rather than trying to expose us. This is the time for love and caring. We should respect each other.”

Why are we moral policing them?

A recording of this incident went viral. New videos mimicking and replicating the her were made and circulated through social media. Memes were created of her words and terms she had used. Even T-shirts were printed with her words and comics were made on it.

Excitement knew no bounds among netizens in the North-East when a video of a quarantine centre in Manipur’s district was circulated on social media. The video is from the Churachandpur district in Manipur and shows inmates of the quarantine centre dancing in there.

Though the video also had a few males, most of the reactions and comments were directed towards the women. Despite all the other violation of norms taking place in quarantine centres everywhere, this video of women dancing caught the public’s attention, for the most obvious reasons.

Why were there questions on the women’s morality?

As the video went viral, media houses, too, picked it up as a breaking news. Screenshots of it came out in print and it was telecast on television channels and online sites. Even as the issue is about flouting guidelines and norms of COVID-19 in the quarantine centre, for people it was the issue of the morality of those women.

There was no question about management and monitoring of the quarantine centres, but questions were raised on ‘morality.’ Though the incident caught the attention of the authorities, there were no reports of any action against those who manage the quarantine centres. Instead, the “quarantine dancers” were made to give out a public apology.

These city returnees are often perceived to be of a ‘loose’ moral character. And that they have no qualms about doing what they want with no regard to their culture and practices. Also, that they have no respect for the sensitivities of their home state and people.

With the stigma attached to those tested positive for COVID-19 and the increase in the number of positive cases in the north-east, the city returnees face double the stigmatisation. It is either that or they are further judged after all these incidents of ‘immoral’ behaviour are caught on cameras.


JUNE 24,2020

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Manipuri Actor Lin Laishram Abused & Issued A Diktat On Pointing Out Inherent Racism In North-East

 Manipuri actor-model Lin Laishram has received a lot of abuse – when she became an actor- model in Bollywood, when she decided to get married to Randeep Hooda, a non-Manipuri, and now when a video clip has surfaced.

It was sometime in early March that news of Mumbai based Manipuri model-actor Lin Laishram and Actor Randeep Hooda planning to take their relationship status to the next level, came out in several media across the country. Reportedly the two had been dating for quite some time.

Indeed, it was newsy and juicy, especially for the north-east – Lin Laishram is a model-turned Bollywood actress from Manipur. Some of her Bollywood films include Mary Kom and Rangoon.

As expected, the news drew a lot of attention, both the good and the bad. Many applauded. Fans and followers of Lin Laishram congratulated her and wished the couple. Then came the expected. Ridicule, contempt, name calling for Lin Laishram, particularly from her home state Manipur and the north-east region.

Judged for her non-Manipuri partner?

Wanting to know more about the news and more so out of curiosity, I checked her Facebook page. It had been deleted. Lin Laishram had kept the relationship a secret, at least on social media. And with the news of her tying the knot, I was curious to see if she had come out in public on social media.

Most celebrities do keep their private life out of their public life. But here there is another angle to it. Lin’s partner and soon-to-be-husband is a non-Manipuri. And this is likely to be the main reason that led her to delete her social media account and social page immediately.

Lin’s twitter account too is inactive, the last tweet was in January 2014 and there are no updates, nor any indication that she is active on twitter.

About a year or so back, Lin had posted a picture of herself with Randeep on her FaceBook page- She didn’t write or post anything that would suggest a relationship. An alert fan, then, had cautioned her that this could invite undesired and unnecessary attention, in her comment.

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I was not surprised about her disappearing from social media; obviously to keep away from trolls. This was a clever move. Though many in/ from the state of Manipur applauded her and were actually wishing her happiness, many still rebuked her and mocked her.

But the news of Lin Laishram marrying a ‘non-Manipuri’ died down as COVID-19 struck the world, and reached all nook and corner of India. In Manipur too everyone got caught in the dilemma. Nobody actually remember Lin or her marriage.

Until this alleged ‘racism’ remark

In the midst of the COVID-19 crisis, out of the blue came a video recording of Lin Laishram in which she was seen and heard to be speaking about ‘racism’.

The video went viral – amongst netizens in/of north-east India. As per the backdrop banner in the video, the occasion seems to be held this year as the print 2020 was visible. The model- actress was supposedly speaking at the event.

In the less than a minute short video clip,  Lin Laishram appears to be speaking at an important film related event. There is no way to know what the event or the program was. Whether the event was on the subject or topic of ‘racism’ or whether Lin Laishram was one of the speaker son the subject. Moreover, one can’t make out from the clip what Lin Laishram said before she spoke about ‘racism’.

In the video clip Lin Laishram said, “we are so racist back home… we have names for you guys… mayang….we are racist ourselves….. we are equally racist…”

She went on to say “we have to address this ‘tum problem ho, hum sab thik hai’. No we are not…” 

All hell broke loose.

Backlash

Lin Laishram was attacked – by netizens across the Northeast and in Manipur. The anger was so strong that, it seems had there been no lockdown, or had Lin been at home in Manipur, she would certainly have faced some direct violence! As it stands, anger rained in on social media. The abusive remarks were so foul and awful, below the belt, that it makes one shudder and gives goosebumps.

It did not end there.

A civil society organization (by the name Kangleipak Kanba Lup, Manipur) issued a ‘diktat’ – that the actress is not permitted to step into her home state Manipur, unless she apologies to the organization. In a written press statement dated 2ndApril 2020 the organization stated that “Though Manipur society is conservative….no one had murmured a word of protest when she exhibited her body almost full naked on the ramp for her modelling shows….But that does not mean she can cross the line.”

The Press statement said “we would like to inform Lin Laishram that she should give an unqualified apology to the people of Manipur and rest of north-east region within a week’s time.  Failing which, we regret to inform that she would not be allowed to return to Manipur again until further notice..” 

The statement also warned that Lin should be prepared for a legal battle for demeaning an entire race of people – the Meitei Race in particualr and the Northeast region as a whole.

Bollywood not allowed

Lin Laishram had stayed out of Manipur, her home state, where she had made a mark for her self. A woman in a modelling career or in the film industry is not considered to be a woman of ‘high moral standard’ in a state like Manipur. She had safely kept herself away. But unfortunately her marriage plans with a non-Manipuri brought her to face the society’s wrath, more so after her ‘statement’. For a Manipuri woman to join a film industry outside her home state is a risky affair, though women who are in Manipuri cinema are ‘accepted’ in society.

Many of these leading ladies in Manipuri cinema were not as lucky to join Bollywood. For instance, Manipur’s heartthrob, leading lady Hijam Bala, was forced to come back home in the middle of shooting of a Bollywood film. – some 7 years ago. She was told to come back by a militant group – she had to cross the international boundary to meet them in person to ‘clarify’ her position. Reportedly, for an actress in Manipur, they have to “report to a certain group” if they get any film offer – for their approval.

To top that, Hindi / Bollywood films are banned in Manipur– for almost two decades now.

Lin’s statement that “we are all racist” and that people in her home state were ‘racist’ surely does not qualify her to be ostracized or ex-communicated, or dictated to. Lin Laishram certainly does not deserve what she is subjected to.

While the subject of racism is a complex and complicated subject, Lin’s concluding note was note-worthy – wherein she actually called for a collective change and awareness of the lesser known people of the north-east states in India.

Editor’s note: While this article mentions and is based on a small clip that is linked to above, here is the complete video of the event at which she was speaking – to promote her movie Axone in which she has played the lead role.


APRIL 13, 2020
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